emotional pain.

We always think our negative emotions are produced by the fault of other people or by the fault of circumstances...
Our negative emotions are in ourselves and are produced by ourselves...
No negative emotions can be produced by external causes if we do not want it.
We have negative emotions because we permit them,
justify them, explain them by external causes, and in this way we do not struggle with them.

-CHARLES T. TART

accepting ourselves.

There are things about ourselves that we need to get rid of;
there are things we need to change.
But at the same time, we do not need to be too desperate, too ruthless, too combative.
...many of those things will change themselves,
and the others can be worked on as we go.

-BENJAMIN HOFF

making changes.

Change is natural and wholesome, not something to fear and avoid.
By looking carefully at the changes that have happened in our lives,
we can see that the process of change is what brings all good things about.
When we allow ourselves to change, life swiftly carries us past difficult times and into times of joy and vitality.

-TARTHANG TULKU